Experts from "To the child who gets my little brother’s heart" by Jason Longhurst
https://medium.com/@jasonmlonghurst/to-the-child-who-gets-my-little-brother-s-heart-766d5fb209da
"Eric’s heart was the biggest part of him. He loved more than normal
people. He seemed to have an extra portion of vitality and capacity to love
than most of us have. Maybe he knew, somehow, that he wouldn’t have as
much time as the rest of us, and he was determined to get as much living done
as he could.
Eric loved life.
… He had a childlike optimism and
tenaciousness when it came to family. He loved spending time together and
enjoying each other’s company…
Eric loved people.
His teachers adored him, his friends worshipped him, and
his family admired him. He knew how to push people to be their best, to
encourage them to reach higher and think bigger. He was a light to everyone who knew him because they knew how much he
cared.
Sometimes it is hard for you to love. People do stupid
things. Sometimes you feel alone and without a friend to lean on. Eric loved
others and it made them love him. Remember that your heart is his heart, and
you can love everyone. Teach them to reach above the clouds by believing in
them, and they will love you too…
Eric loved to win.
It might feel like losing is all you can expect from life, and winning
isn’t in the cards. Remember that if you don’t play the game, you will never
win. You have to love playing and winning enough to not be afraid of losing…
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The rest of us are lucky too. He
gave us something special, his love and memory. Everyone who met him or hears
his story will carry that for life. He taught us that we can all love life,
love people, and love winning a little more. Love is a part of him that all of
us can share.
Inside each of us, his heart
beats on."
A turning point in my life has revolved around service and finding time for people. Honestly I haven't diligently ministered as a should. Because I hardly knew two people I was assigned to, we met with them once and then I went on with the rest of my busy semester. I have not received new assignments and I regret this almost constantly. I have been doing better this semester- or trying to at least. Why am I focusing on this so much?- you might ask. When I first moved in I had very diligent and insightful home teachers. They truly were there for me and wanted to be helpful to me. They asked me what I wanted to discuss when we met, had me define my spirituality, and simply asked what I wanted to get out of this. Some of our first conversations were a bit surprising or uncomfortable as a thought they might be, but we were able to have gospel discussions about our lives, challenges, and struggles. I loved that about my first experience with Home teaching in college.
I don't know when I started this big focus on other people. Sure my little brother's example sure inspires me everyday, and my older brothers challenge above for everyone to follow in his footsteps and share your heart also gives me a push and a boost. I think something that changed me though honestly, is when my ministering brothers never visited me this year. I have head ministering brethren assigned to me before, and the pattern for a while was to come on the last day of the month, but they still tried. Because I had that previous experience with my first ministering brothers I was able to tell them what I wanted from ministering that year. I wanted to have good conversations, share challenges maybe but I definitely didn't want it to be one sided. I wanted to hear about their life to, and treat our relationship like an honest friendship rather than a one sided interrogation. We are still pretty good friends, but since then my ministering brothers haven't tried to reach out once this year. It doesn't help that I hardly see them or even know who they are.
Because of these experiences, motivations I have been more focused on people. Although I was really busy earlier this semester, when I finally found time I wanted to connect with more people. Maybe this is selfish for me partially, because I want to